On Patience and Respect
Sir Henry Morton Stanley was known by the Congo people as Bula Matari ("breaker of rocks" in the Kikongo language) because of his road building and symbolically for his unyielding will.
Always in a hurry in his travels through Africa, in many occasions he ended in violent conflict with the natives. But the explorer later recognized in his autobiography the value of an advice recorded earlier by Livingstone in one of his journal entries coming from one Afro-Arab trader - Stanley dated the Livingstone's entry to 28th October, 1870.
"Muini Mukata, who has travelled further than most Arabs, said to me, 'If a man goes with a good-natured, civil tongue, he may pass through the worst people in Africa unharmed.'" This is true, but time also is required; one must not run through a country, but give the people time to become acquainted with you, and let their worst fears subside.